We say we want love, we’re looking for love, or we want to feel love, but do you know what that truly means? Are you truly ready for love? They say you can’t help who you fall in love with, but is falling really something you want to do? Love is a choice, and some people have gotten it confused. There is a high divorce rate because of the confusion of “falling in love” versus truly being in love. So do you really want love?
If so, understand what love is first. Love starts with you loving yourself FIRST not compromising your morals, your beliefs, and who you are for the sake of another, and NOT forgetting about yourself and what’s important to YOU. Second, love is loving the person for who they truly are, and not the potential of what you think you can make them. Let’s be real, some of us have a habit of thinking we can change people, when reality is someone’s going to change, and it’s going to be YOU! People change when they want to change and people going to do what they want to do.
Now, when I say love the person for who they are, we mean not for what they can do for you or how much they can change your life. Some of us think prince charming is going to show up, sweep us off our feet, and we live happily ever after, WRONG!! Let’s not try to make a Hollywood movie out of life. Let’s be real, it rarely ever happens that way. It takes time to love, and that means even the annoying parts of that person you say you love. To truly love a person means love them no matter what. Whether they lose their job, can’t cook, or etc. Of course love is not those individuals who don’t love themselves enough to know how much they hurt someone by violence or cheating, but for those who truly love you because we all know love is not self seeking, violent, or destructive.
Third, love makes you look at yourself in makes you look at your past, your future, and your life presently. You begin seeing ways about yourself that you didn’t know existed. You start seeing things you have as flaws, but LOVE, real love makes you want to be a better person not only for yourself, but for that person you love. Hence, love makes you want to be a better person. Still want love?
People say they want love, but presently what do you bring to the table? What’s your expectation? Are you what you expect someone else to be? Are the things you want that person to do something you yourself will do? If you want to be loved are you giving love? What kind of love do you display? Do you call or text because that person was on your mind? Do you do randomly do things to make them feel special? Send flowers to her or take him lunch or make him dinner? Romance goes a long way after years have passed, but what keeps it going? Communication, Love, and Understanding. A relationship is work and takes time, love is effortless and can’t be forced, so with that said, are you ready for love or do you need to re-evaluate?